Wednesday, February 08, 2006

yet another stage

Up until now, the twins have pretty much done everything together. Same activities, same playdates, same parties, same bedroom, same school. Now, all of a sudden, we have been faced with something new. They have both been invited to birthday parties of two classmates and these parties are on the SAME day and at the SAME time! After some discussion amongst themselves (super cute to overhear too) they decided that baby boy would go to the boy's party and baby girl to the girl's party (totally predictable outcome, of course). So this is pretty much the first time they will go to an event on their own. Being of different genders I was kind of expecting this to occur at one point as they grow up with different friends. More so than twins of the same gender who can share friends and activities for longer. Reminds me of a friend of mine who has twin boys. At the time they were both attending the same school and the same class, first grade. Come along one classmates's birthday party and he invites one twin and not the other. The latter was devastated. The mother ended up not sending either. For her, it was both or none.


Silver Creek Mom said...

You know I never realized they went to all the same things. Like I mean I did, but I didn't. I thought Your young lady went to girl playdates and your young Man went with his friends too. Interesting. They are growing up and changing but I'm sure they will always be there for each other.

Another stage is right.

nancy said...

I was JUST thinking of this - esp. of you - tonight while I was out for a walk. I was thinking that I never get any alone time with either of my boys, they always want to do everything either together, or if I invite one to join me somewhere, they both always want to stay with Daddy.

I envy your approaching soccer season in a sense that you will be able to be with ONE child for 'their' thing. I have often wondered about the pending birthday party invitation of doom = one being invited and not the other. In fact, I almost look forward to it in hopes of trying to uplift some hurt feelings by doing something special with just the other guy. We'll go out for lunch, a movie, something just the two of us. Until then, I really can't think that I'll have much of anything less that 'the three of us'.

BeachMama said...

How cute that they discussed what to do and came up with a workable (although predictable) solution on their own. I wouldn't know what to do if one was invited and not the other, I think I would be more crushed than the kids. It will probobly work out more often with being twins of opposite gender. Hope they have fun.

DaniGirl said...

Very interesting!! And how could any mother invite one twin (of the same gender, no less) to something and not the other?

With only two kids, we try hard to make sure each gets alone time with each parent - sometimes only for a few minutes, maybe a quick errand, but it's something my mom always tried to do, and so is important to me. Talk to me again in a year and see if I still buy into this!!